WED......With
these beads, I thee wed.
TWO WOMEN became the first
gay couple to get married in Taiwan this month, in a little ceremony that has
attracted worldwide attention, support from equality groups, and sparked
national debate about same-sex unions.
Ironically, while their
wedding was blessed by their faith, it's not legal by law. Fish Huang Mei-yu
and You Ya-ting, both 30, tied the knot at a Buddhist monastery in Guanyin
Township of Taoyuan County. Their nuptials were done according to religious
rites, so their marriage isn't recognised by the government.
But it was the first lesbian
wedding in Taiwan and LGBT groups are hoping this will make the country the
first in Asia to legalise same-sex unions. Over 100 friends and relatives
witnessed the ceremony. However, the absence of couple's parents was a sad
reminder of their struggle for acceptance.
"Our parents initially
agreed to attend, but they felt they weren't prepared for the media exposure,
so they decided not to come. We understand that people have different
acceptance of media exposure and we want to give them space," Fish told
reporters before the wedding.
BLUSHING.....Buddha
and the blushing brides.
"My family couldn't
accept (my sexual orientation) at first. So when we started dating seven years
ago, I took Ya-ting home frequently and let them know who I was going out with
and gradually they accepted it," she said. Meanwhile, her partner's
parents only learned their daughter was gay when they were planning her
wedding.
According to Taipei Times,
the brides wore white gowns, said "I do" before a statue of Buddha,
and exchanged prayer beads instead of rings after reciting chants and a
teaching on the meaning of marriage. Nearly 300 Buddhists chanted sutras to
seek blessings for them.
"Congratulations to
both of you," said Venerable Shih Chao-hui, who presided over the ritual.
Shih, a prominent Buddhist icon in Taiwan and a strong advocate of gender
equality and social justice, announced, "I am certain you will lead a life
of happiness together, especially after you have overcome so much difficulty
and societal discrimination."
"You have blessings not
only from the Buddha, but also those whom you may or may not know who are in
attendance. We are witnessing history. The two women are willing to stand out
and fight for their fate, to overcome social discrimination."
The happy couple have since
written an open letter to President Ma Ying-jeou, urging his government to
recognise same-sex unions.
"We're not only doing
it for ourselves, but also for other gays and lesbians," said Fish.
"It is meaningful to us that our wedding can give hope to other
homosexuals and help heterosexuals understand how Buddhism views
sexuality."
Chuang Chiao-ju, a member of
the Taiwan LGBT Rights Advocacy, said, "Marriage is a basic right and the
Constitution protects the equal rights of each citizen of this country to enjoy
equal rights." (Taipei Times)
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